When you are able to disengage from unhealthy attachments to certain people, places and things in your life, what remains is your essence or higher self. This detachment will allow your motivation to come from within and be genuine, rather than from without which can mislead and lacks inner support.
The directions you take in this higher state and the choices you make will occur naturally and seemingly without effort. A certain gracefulness will ensue when you are not restrained from stifling outer imposed limitations.
If the direction you should move in is not clearly illuminated…wait. Do nothing. In stillness and meditation, the answer will appear. When the response is appropriate, you will have no doubt. Doubt is our enemy. It disdains all that is possible and immobilizes the self. Isolate doubt and remain objective to it and its harmful effects.
Where doubt exists, clarity cannot be present. Clarity is wordless and comes from within. There is nothing to for you to seek; this inner vision and clarity waits quietly for you to overcome doubt and then it will make itself known.