Your Dreams

Your nightly dreaming is possibly the most creative, spontaneous thing you do in your life. These dreams present a wonderful opportunity to find missing and disowned parts of your true self. When your self censoring mode is off in the dream state, certain people, symbols, feelings and meanings will emerge. Often you awake from a dream quite puzzled about what you have experienced.

You may have managed to repress certain strong feelings in your waking hours, but left unbridled and able to roam in the dream state, they will always emerge. It may take some courage to face these holes in your personality however there is immense potential for self discovery when these dreams are experienced in the present moment.

It is possible to re-experience the dream using the following technique. Begin taking advantage of this simple technique to allow yourself to recapture these lost parts of your personality.

Begin by choosing a vivid dream you recall, whether it occurred last night or decades ago. Often the more bizarre and confusing the dream may be, the more vital information it contains.

Make a mental note of all the individual parts of the dream. All the people, places and things. For example, I may dream that I was in an old blue truck that was parked outside a cottage.

On the seat next to me was a chain saw and a pair of work boots. The sky was cloudy and it looked about ready to rain. Approaching the truck and carrying a potted plant was someone who resembled a former teacher. I awake feeling completely bewildered by this dream.

The old blue truck, cottage, seat, chain saw, work boots, cloudy sky, potted plant and teacher are all of supreme importance. Our intent is not to analyze these parts of the dream, rather to re-experience them in the present moment. We do not want to involve the intellect.

Remember that this dream is uniquely yours, created in your mind with meaning to you only. Books which interpret symbols tend to miss the mark, because meaning is unique to the dreamer and the dreamer's life experiences.

Once you have made this mental list of dreams items, begin by using the previously learned meditation to center yourself in the now. Use the hand technique to get grounded in the present moment. One by one we are going to, in the now, become or re-experience each individual part of the dream.

This may sound difficult or strange so let me clarify. Each and every part of the dream is originating from within, telling a story about you for you, relaying a message from your subconscious. Follow patiently because this absolutely works!

In my dream example, if I become or re-experience the old blue truck, really become it, I may say (as the blue truck) " I'm dependable" or "I've never let you down before" or "I've given you my best years" and at the same time I am "blue" or sad or depressed. You may be saying, "So, what does that mean?"

Well perhaps upon examining this previously puzzling dream, I have the following realization. I am currently in a relationship where I feel that I could honestly say to the other person " I'm dependable" or "I've never let you down before" or "I've given you my best years" but at the same time I feel "blue" or sad. Perhaps on some deep level, I feel that there is a certain amount of inequality in this relationship, but I've never expressed these feelings because of the threat of a painful end to this relationship.

So I have managed to repress these feelings during my waking hours. They are never totally repressed however; they will arise in the dream state. With this new found realization, I could approach this person with honest expression and possibly find a resolution. With resolution, the dream item would then disappear from future dreams.

Where are you during anesthesia?

A subscriber to this newsletter recently posed a very thoughtful question.

Although he was almost convinced that there is something more to us than body and mind (by the mere fact that we can observe the body and the mind which must involve an "it" that does the observing), he asked why this "it" remains subject to external influences?

He cited general anesthesia which "knocks us out during an operation. It goes black and that's that. We wake up after, and for a few short moments we do not know who we are, where we are or why we are". He questioned; "If there is something else, why is it also affected by general anesthesia and not able to be separate to which is happening during an operation?"

To respond in a meaningful way, we must examine the origin of the word anesthesia. We find it is from the Greek - anaisth sia - which means "lack of sensation".

Even though our sensory abilities are suspended at this time, we clearly still exist, as evidenced by the passage of time and witnesses to the event. If one were to rely solely on the mind in this instance, one would genuinely state that one did not exist. We have no memory of the event but this does not preclude any type of awareness. There was awareness enough to continue respiration, blood flow, temperature regulation, and so on.

If I were to ask you to recall what you were specifically aware of at 7:03 pm on the 15th of last month, it is likely your memory would fail you. The mind and in turn the memory are not infallible. Perhaps you have even had the experience of driving a long distance and suddenly being aware that you have been so preoccupied that you do not recall the last 5 miles which you clearly had the awareness to navigate! Or the last 5 pages of a book you are finding terribly boring which you nonetheless used your eye movements to scan and recognize words. There was certainly an ongoing level of awareness during these examples, yet our memory betrays us.

Going further, a non-dualist would say that the past and future exist in the mind only and are bound by time and space. That in reality all is one and all is here and now. The law of cause and effect is still in the mind only, but you are not your mind. By this definition, anesthesia would be in the mind only.

Energy loss

It really is quite remarkable when we begin to consider the vast amounts of energy we consume needlessly. Large amounts of energy are used to sustain our delusions, fantasies and various levels of unawareness. When we are centered and remaining in the moment as much as possible, then our energy flows smoothly from one moment to the next.

When we are able to approach each moment from our center (our source), the appropriate response to the actions of others and events around us will occur quite naturally. This skill will sharpen through the continued use of the meditation techniques.

When we choose (and it is a choice) to leave the safe haven of the present moment and become caught up in our thoughts, imaginings and fantasies, our naturally flowing energy now is diverted. In order to maintain these illusions, our mind will construct elaborate schemes and rationalizations to justify our behavior.

For example, you feel slighted or treated unfairly by someone, and the image of the event gets replayed in your mind until resentment builds. Now your imagination begins to envision and create scenarios like "next time I see him/her I'm going to tell them..." and "if they respond in this manner then I'll respond with....".

On and on, the multiple possibilities of various confrontations and interactions that may or may not even occur are visualized, analyzed, and replayed. The energy that would normally flow naturally and allow you to rely on your immediate intuitive abilities becomes blocked. That energy is now required to sustain this continued layer of fantasy between your true self and the other individual.

Furthermore, feelings of guilt may arise upon being aware of these resentments and these guilty feelings further tax your psyche and require yet more energy to keep you from spiraling out of control. These false layers block true, direct communication between individuals and can become habitual patterns.

You may unconsciously extend these feelings towards other individuals you encounter in the future. To illustrate this point consider the following example. Lets say the individual with whom the current resentment involves, happens to have a reddish beard.

Three years later you happen to be introduced to a stranger with a reddish beard and immediately you feel a sense of uneasiness. All the while you are completely unaware as to the basis of this feeling. Be careful to note what you assume are merely "first impressions" may possibly be impressions from a previous experience dating back days, months or even years!

To prevent the unnecessary depletion of your vital life energy, try to commit to remaining centered in the present moment. This will prevent the bottling up and misuse of the very life force that will propel you from moment to moment with ease.

Until then


Sleep when you're dead; until then keep learning


this ain't a Friends episode


and it won't be painless.


Pain tells us something's amuck,


that there's something to learn,


to make you stronger


so that you may weather what is sure to follow.


It's all right though


you'll do just fine


just remember to breathe


and see clearly


without turning away.


If you find you've been sleepwalking,


change from your pj's


lest you nod off again following fashion.


Too much curiosity about sweetness


killed the cat nonetheless


taste the bitterness too


then put it in its place


on the table of your dreams.


Use the sun as your guide


inside and out


inside never setting


know it to be true.


Quit pushing


the door opens inward


let it open and flood your landscape


just breathe and stay above it.


You are pursued by time


timepiece or not


grin while it ravishes


and gently hold the timeless in your soul.


Fight the good fight


because you can


because you must.


When you fall


softly or with full force


you'll see up close the ground of your being


in ways never noticed before.


When others fall


let them see what they must too


everyone's prints are different




lend them yours


so they may see beyond themselves.


Count your blessings


with tax time precision


file in timely fashion


and let go.


The fire is yours


to stoke or to douse.


It is your call


listen for it


recognize the familiar voice


then act.


Tea biscuits


need not be taken with tea


determine what you want


before it's decided for you


the transaction barely noticed


the whimper unheard.


When you are sliding


take care to steer in the opposite direction




when your brakes squeak


trust you're not the only one who notices.


Ignore the symptoms and eventually others


will let you know...if you can still hear them.


Now go


and live


and give


and sleep will surely come.

Heart tune-up

Keep your heart clean. Every 5000 miles bring it in. Only bring it to those you trust, so that you're ready for the next 5000 miles with those you don't.

A third option

Judging uses a tremendous amount of our energy and inner resources. Being non-judgmental uses much less, nonetheless there is still energy drained when we trigger that mechanism to stop our likely overwhelming social conditioning to judge.

Another option is to move beyond being judgmental or non- judgmental and simply learning to observe without opinion. Difficult, yes initially very. Impossible? No. Try it for thirty minutes one day. Choose a location like a busy street or perhaps sitting in a crowded shopping mall.

Attempt to have no opinion on the physical features or attractiveness of other people (and yourself for that matter), the selection of their chosen attire and the attitude their gait projects

To the extent you can remain in this mind set; to that degree you will experience a remarkable calmness and serenity. Nothing will bother you, because you have removed that which is susceptible to outside influences.

When you don't judge, you are also relieved of the judgement of others. Unfortunately the harsher the manner in which you judge others, the greater the burden of judgement that you will necessarily feel upon yourself.

Choose a third option, to simply have no opinion! Your senses will still naturally record incoming stimuli but with an absence of opinion. Be aware of how centered and undisturbed you will feel at these times. Just try it.

Truly inspired

When you are truly inspired (in-spirit) you are unable to trace the source because it is beyond definitions and boundaries. Whereas when your motivation is from the ego, it is most certainly traceable.

The genuine inner prompts will not be wrong or ill-advised because their source is infinite and all knowing. The prompts of the ego are fallible because they rely mostly on historical analysis and deny the intuitive.

This is useful knowledge in determining if the direction you sense is from within or without, and ultimately if this is the proper direction for you at this moment.

Clarity...not yet available in pill form

Definition: Clarity from the Latin claritat-, claritas, from clarus, the quality or state of being clear. Need a little clarity? Sorry, but it's not for sale. Unless you find yourself strolling the streets of the futuristic thriller "Minority Report", where a drug called "clarity" can be bought quite readily.

Coincidentally or not, off screen the film's lead actor Tom Cruise espouses the creed of the Church of Scientology, where the goal is to become "A Clear". According to Scientology and it's core technique Dianetics, "The goal of Dianetics is a new state for the individual, sought throughout history but never attainable before Dianetics. This state is called Clear. A Clear is a being who no longer has his own reactive mind.

A Clear is an unaberrated person and is rational in that he forms the best possible solutions he can on the data he has and from his viewpoint. The Clear has no engrams which can be restimulated to throw out the correctness of computation by entering hidden and false data."

Now is that very clear? At least Dianetics doesn't take credit for the creation of this state called "Clear" (after all who can create a state of being?) yet until their arrival, this state was "never attainable". It's akin to saying "until you buy my map to San Antonio, you can't get there".

This Church goes on to pronounce that "The full glory of the state of Clear has no comparable description in any writings existing in our culture. The state had been long sought but was impossible to achieve without the researches and breakthroughs of L. Ron Hubbard." It's a wonder anyone found contentment pre-Hubbard.

Do you want clarity? You won't come to it intellectually. No one can give it to you even if they tell you they are the only ones that offer it. To see yourself and others with clarity, you must first be very still.

The mind is as a body of water. If the water is turbulent then the surface reflection will be choppy and distorted. If the water is still, the reflection is clearly witnessed. It is imperative to first still the mind before a state of clarity can arrive. Use whatever contemplative method/prayer/technique is most effective in quieting the mind. If you need a simple technique try the one located here.

There is no timetable to follow here. There is no need to judge your progress. Your ego wants you to master the mediation process quickly. It is not a game to be mastered but rather a process that with the passage of time and discipline, will become effortless and your ability to still your mind will increase.

When you are truly in the moment, fear and worry cannot touch you for they require past and future thought. Anticipating future events and the consequences of your past actions, catapults you from the safety of the present. Once knocked off balance and removed from your center, these images you speak of now absorb your attention. You then come under their hypnotic power. Should this occur, simply realize it is happening and return to the present moment.

This will occur countless times so don't keep a scorecard. Move towards clarity while ever realizing it is process. In every moment there is potential for insight and growth. The map needed is gratefully already inside you. Know that you most certainly can get there from here.

You can always choose to make sure that you have "no engrams which can be restimulated to throw out the correctness of computation by entering hidden and false data" if that brings more clarity instead of confounding.

Then again, when the Psalmist of the Old Testament says "Be still, and know that I am God..." the words are clarity itself.

Deep sleep

Our worldly experience is comprised of three states; waking, dreaming and deep sleep. When awake or dreaming one can witness that they are awake or dreaming. Where is the witness when in deep sleep? If someone watches you while you are in a state of deep sleep, they themselves are aware of the passage of time.

For you though there is only nothingness. There is "no - thing" in that state of deep sleep. No conscious witnessing of body or mind. Peaceful, perfect and undisturbed. Ponder how this may relate to the death of our body as a vehicle for consciousness.


If you choose (and it is a choice) to remain convinced that you are what your mind tells you that you are, then try to realize just how tenuous your self-image really is.

Lose or find a job, lose or find a lover, or have your ego praised or insulted and watch your self-image change rapidly and at times radically. The ramifications of these events cause the mind to constantly redefine who you are. The mind will tell you that you were once this or that, and now you are this or that. Clearly see that it is merely an image.

All the ideas your mind has about you are perilously hinging on ever-changing circumstances and events.

Do you think the essence of who you are can suddenly change because someone hires or fires you, loves or hates you, or insults or praises you?

Realize that the essence of who you are (the witness of these thoughts) is infinite and changeless. Recall that you are able to observe your thoughts so in fact you are separate from them. That which does the observing is changeless and unaffected by the events unfolding around you.

If you remain engrossed in your thoughts then it follows that you will be tossed to and fro. Remain objective to your thoughts, tame your ego and you will be at peace. This inner peace may be achieved with sincerity in your heart and daily discipline. Practice present moment awareness at all times and mediate regularly to still the restless mind.

Every moment...this is it!

In every successive moment you find what truly is. In every moment the truth is boldly revealed. In every moment that you attend to, your destiny is there also. In every moment that you are aware, escape is neither desired nor possible. In every moment, without reference to past or future, there you will find timelessness.

In every moment that you observe a thought, that is another moment in which you realize you are not the thought. In every moment that you give up the need to be somewhere; in that moment you will realize you are where you should be.

In every moment that you give up trying to better yourself, in that moment you will be your best. In every moment that you are not able to close off the flow of life, in that moment you will be completely open. In every moment that you truly do nothing, you will accomplish everything.


Freedom is always here and now and available to us. We need only realize it. When locked into our thoughts and perceptions, freedom appears as but a dream. Separate and unattached from the mind and ego, freedom is found.

Give up your strong attachments to desires and that is when you will find they will begin to be fulfilled. Seeking more knowledge and information upon information only burdens the mind by its sheer weight. Beyond your mind and ego and fixed in the present moment, you will find everything you need to know. Wordless and intuitive.

Your inner self will be your greatest teacher if you only remain still enough to hear it! When you eliminate all the false ideas and notions you have about yourself through regular and earnest meditation, then what remains is the true Self. That is where freedom dwells as well.

Get it now...
  • Katha Upanishad (circa 1400 BC)
    "To many it is not given to hear of the Self. Many, though they hear it, do not understand it. Wonderful is he who speaks of it. Intelligent is he who learns of it. Blessed is he, who taught by a good teacher is able to understand it"

  • Buddha (circa 530 BC)
    "I have taught the truth which is excellent in the beginning, excellent in the middle, and excellent in the end; it is glorious in its spirit and glorious in its letter. But simple as it is, the people cannot understand it. I must speak to them in their own language. I must adapt my thoughts to their thoughts. They are like unto children, and love to hear tales. Therefore, I will tell them stories to explain the glory of the Dharma. If they cannot grasp the truth in the abstract arguments by which I have reached it, they may nevertheless come to understand it, if it is illustrated in parables."

  • Tao Te Ching (circa 440 BC)
    The Tao that can be followed is not the eternal Tao. The name that can be named is not the eternal name. The nameless is the origin of heaven and earth While naming is the origin of the myriad things. Therefore, always desireless, you see the mystery Ever desiring, you see the manifestations. These two are the same-- When they appear they are named differently. This sameness is the mystery, Mystery within mystery; The door to all marvels.
  • The Gospel According to St. Matthew - Chapter 13 (circa 70 AD)
    10 And the disciples came, and said unto him, Why speakest thou unto them in parables? 11 He answered and said unto them, Because it is given unto you to know the mysteries of the kingdom of heaven, but to them it is not given. 12 For whosoever hath, to him shall be given, and he shall have more abundance: but whosoever hath not, from him shall be taken away even that he hath. 13 Therefore speak I to them in parables; because seeing they see not, and hearing they hear not, neither do they understand. 14 And unto them is fulfilled the prophecy of Isaiah, which saith, By hearing ye shall hear, and shall in no wise understand; And seeing ye shall see, and shall in no wise perceive: 15 For this people's heart is waxed gross, And their ears are dull of hearing, And their eyes they have closed; Lest haply they should perceive with their eyes, And hear with their ears, And understand with their heart, And should turn again, And I should heal them. 16 But blessed are your eyes, for they see; and your ears, for they hear.

  • 4-8 year olds when posed question "What is love?"(circa 2000 AD)

    "When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love." -- Rebecca, age 8

    "When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You know that your name is safe in their mouth." -- Billy, age 4

    "Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs." -- Chrissy, age 6

    "Love is what makes you smile when you're tired." -- Terri, age 4

    Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK." -- Danny, age 7

    "If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate." -- Nikka, age 6

    "When you tell someone something bad about yourself and you're scared they won't love you anymore. But then you get surprised because not only do they still love you, they love you even more." -- Matthew, age 7

    "Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well." -- Tommy, age 6

    "During my piano recital, I was on a stage and scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore." -- Cindy, age 8

    "Love is when mommy gives daddy the best piece of chicken." -- Elaine, age 5 "Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day." -- Mary Ann, age 4

    "When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you." -- Karen, age 7

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